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Love Your Children – Validation

There are many ways to show that you love your children. In a previous article, I discussed the importance of loving your kids unconditionally–nothing they can say or do could ever diminish your love for them. This helps them feel lovable.

Another important way to show you love your children is through validation. To validate something, or in this case someone, means to bestow value upon it. Children need unconditional validation, as much as they need unconditional love. That means, letting your children know that not only are they always loved, but they are always valued as individuals, no matter what. Just as your love helps them learn to love themselves and feel secure and worthwhile, your validation helps them feel recognized for who they are and begin to feel confident, competent, capable, and appreciated for their own specialness.

Showing your children that they are valued occurs in a variety of ways, and in a variety of situations. Valuing your children for simply existing in your life can be conveyed through love and affirmations. Your children need to know that they don’t have to do a thing for you to love and value them.

Your child also needs to know that he is valued for the person he is, for the qualities and traits that he has. It is important to recognize who your child is, then show him how you value him for the person he is. For instance, if your child is ‘silly,’ then, be sure that he knows that you enjoy this characteristic, and validate this special quality. Now, certainly you may need to help him learn when it’s appropriate to demonstrate a particular characteristic and when it is not, but enjoying that quality can help validate this aspect of your child so that he can fully blossom.

I worked with a child whose father took things very seriously. When he threw a ball with his son, he expected his son to throw it back the ‘right’ way. When he took him bowling, the boy had to follow all instructions. Sure, we want to teach our children the proper way to do things. But, there needs to be a time to allow the child to be silly, especially if that’s a part of who he is. So, when he giggled and started throwing the baseball between his legs, or tried to see how many gutter balls he could get, this father had a choice. He could enjoy the moment and validate his son by laughing and joining in, or storm off and call it quits, which is what he chose to do. The boy’s comment to me? “I don’t think my daddy likes me very much.”

So, how about you? How do you allow your children to be themselves? How do you validate and appreciate their uniqueness and special qualities? Validation is a very important part of feeling loved, valued and positive about themselves.

The Hazards of Feeding Soy to Children

Do you feed your baby something besides breast milk? Does it contain soy or Soy Protein Isolate (SPI)? Isoflavones in these soy milk replacers are a serious reason for concern. Approximately 25% of bottle-fed children in the United States receive soy-based formula.

Feeding soy milk replacer began in the 1970’s. By 1998, investigators reported that the daily exposure of infants to isoflavones in soy infant formula is six to eleven times higher on a body-weight basis than the dose that has hormonal effects in adults consuming soy foods. Circulating concentrations of isoflavones in infants fed soy-based formula were 13,000 to 22,000 times higher than plasma estradiol concentrations than infants fed cow’s milk formula.

Would you feed your baby birth control pills? One researcher estimated that an infant exclusively fed soy formula receives the estrogenic equivalent (based on body weight) of at least five birth control pills per day. Almost no phytoestrogens have been detected in dairy-based infant formula or in human milk, even when the mother consumes soy products. So, what does this do to our children? Read the list below and be concerned if your child is showing any of these signs and symptoms.

In children, soy anecdotes have included:

o Asthma

o Changed patterns of sexual orientation (influenced by the early hormonal environment)

o Extreme emotional behavior

o Immune system problems

o Impairment of spatial perception

o Infantile leukemia

o Irritable bowel

o Learning disabilities–especially in male children

o Pituitary insufficiency

o Precociousness–Male infants undergo a “testosterone surge” during the first few months of life, where testosterone levels may be as high as those of an adult male.

o Thyroid disorders

o Visual discrimination tasks required for reading

Can’t have dairy? There are options. Other combinations of formulas that may take a bit more time to make for your baby include mixtures of carrot juice, oat milk, almond milk, goat and rice milk.

If the mother is large-breasted, it also helps to use a breast pump, complete the milking process and combine all three fractions of milk. If the baby only gets the first fraction, which is more watery and has less protein, it makes the baby gassy. Also, if the mother eats lots of raw fruits and vegetables, she will have lots of milk and the milk will be healthier for the baby. I’ve personally seen a midwife adopt a newborn baby, take milk-producing herbs, and nurse the baby herself for a year using her own breasts! Herbs can be very powerful when you know which ones to use.

Other purists recommend raw, unpasteurized milk, saying that the baby will not be allergic to this since the proteins within the milk have not been modified from the pasteurizing process or from using microwave ovens. You will have to make your own decisions and choices with this (know your source!) as this type of milk is hard to obtain and can be contaminated with Salmonella bacteria if not handled and processed properly. There is nothing wrong with visiting the farm and taking a look at their cleanliness habits and the rooms they process the milk in.

The new Ultra Pasteurized Milks and products that have been microwaved are another issue totally. Ultra Pasteurized milk has been implicated in Crohn’s disease and the body cannot process some or most protein that has been microwaved. Heat any milk replacer over a burner to be safe. I do not advocate either of these options either. But, that’s for another day.

How to Improve Focus in Children

Kids are the cheeriness of all homes, and watching their playful moments will cart off the intensity of even the mournful situations. However, the bringing up of children is a bit strenuous, especially, from the infancy to teenage year. Many parents earnestly complain about the difficulty of the situation. Proper nurturing and imparting the right education to them is of prime importance. Everyone will have to make sure about this, which is imperative to shape them as bona fide citizens of the country.

Teach Kids How to Focus

Parents must teach children how to concentrate or focus on whatever job they do, as this is the way to make them confident and winning. This method will decide the perfectness and success of their future endeavors.

Try These to Augment the Focusing Ability of Your Kids

  • In our time, devices such as tablets, computers, smart phones, etc., pose a real threat to children. These modern tools trim down the ability to focus clearly. Besides, these gadgets take the kids away from books, and within no time, they will become addicted to the use of these devices. Focusing on a particular subject will be a problem for such children. Parents must take care not to use these gadgets for a long time when they stay within the vicinity of children.
  • As playing will be of top-most interest to all kids, the best practical way to make them interested in any subject is through playing. You can buy them educational toys such as puzzles, memory games, etc. Besides, you must also play with them, which will make the game more interesting to them. Such games will augment the focusing ability of the child considerably.
  • There are numerous memory-boosting play items in the present-day market. You must buy such toys for the kids, and make them play those.
  • Yet another practical way to enhance the capability of focusing is to make the environment calm. You must make it a point that the study time of the kids must remain practically serene. Naturally, the calmness of the ambiance will develop mental alertness in kids, which directly influences the focusing skill.
  • You can prepare a perfect working schedule for the kids. However, just making a schedule and leaving the same with them will not yield any results. You must sit with them and see that they follow the time-table. Though a bit tiresome, this effort is a sure way to enhance the focusing ability of the kid.
  • You must pay keen attention to provide children with the right kind of food. The food you provide must contain the needed micronutrients like iron, zinc, copper, etc., and also the desired vitamins. A good blend of these will make it healthy for the kids. Consumption of healthy food is vital for enhancing the concentration power of children.
  • It is a must that parents must provide adequate leisure time for their children. Playing time must not collide with the study time.
  • You must allow them to move freely with their friends, albeit you will have to keep a watch on their movements. Building social bonds is a must to make the minds mature, and maturity is essential for mental concentration.
  • Children must get enough sleep, which will make the body metabolism perfect. School-going children should sleep at least 8 to 9 hours a day. Adequate sleep will enhance the power of concentration.
  • Awarding for personal achievements in the school (let it be in the field of academics, arts, or sports) is the best bet for boosting the morale of the children. Hence, they will be keen to attain the highest possible position in every endeavor, which will augment the focusing ability.

5 Amazing Benefits of PC Games to Children

Games have become an essential part of a child’s development now. Parents are more concerned about what games the kids are playing rather than worrying about why at all they are playing games. If you are a new parent then you must learn to encourage your child more into playing PC games rather than playing any other games in the play time. For this scenario, we should give special thanks to the developers. They have used their intelligence and skills to make the games educative. Let us know some of the benefits that parents can get from the games.

Teach Kids Problem-Solving Skills

Games are responsible for the rapid development of the brain. This happens because you have to plan, negotiate and take actions in the game instantly and also in a proper order. A slight mistake can make you lose the game. They can learn a different technique to advance.

Making Them Creative

The games will make you creative. They will understand the rules of the game, be creative to explore and plan in their own way rather than following the same old ways. This will highlight personalities and several interests in the kinds. The games do not necessarily have to be “educational” teaching “A”, “B”, “C”, “D”, etc. They can be any normal game which offers relevant information. In that attempt, they will develop a better personality.

Can Encourage Interest in History and Culture

Parents can choose the contents of the game wisely. There are games that have the ancient culture in the background. This can help to grow the interest of your child in the world geography and history. They might take to internet and books to learn the details. These games also enable the kids to choose maps of different countries. This helps in learning and identifying the country names and their maps.

Making More Friends Becomes Easy

If your child is the shy type who remains isolated from others then the games might be quite helpful for you. The games create a ground for your child to make friends, hang out and spend time with them. The games became a common topic of discussion.

Gives the Opportunity to Take a Lead

The games when played in groups often allow your child to take leadership of the game at times. At other times they will become followers learning the good and bad of both the sides. This will enhance the leadership quality in the kids irrespective of what age they are.

All these qualities are really beneficial for the normal development of a child. Thus, parents are in no way wrong in encouraging their wards to play games.

The Biggest Mistake Made By Couples With Children

You’ve been married or living common-law for several years and have two children. Many of you probably can’t remember the last time you went to a movie together or had a dinner date without children. How do you ever find the time with all the demands of jobs and parenting? You barely have time to keep up with the laundry, never mind going to a movie.

What I’ve described is a very common scenario among married couples with children. We get caught up in the day to day managing of the household and our work outside the home. For some reason it just doesn’t seem as important as everything else. We in fact might even feel guilty if we spend the time and money to go out for dinner. We think of the cost of the babysitter, the dinner, the wine and the parking. We also think of the logistics around making it happen. We’ll often say to ourselves that it’s just too much trouble.

I’ve known couples where years can go by with no couple time at all. Each parent might spend time with their own friends but they don’t spend time with each other. When we neglect our primary relationship we risk losing it; the same as anything else in life we neglect. The strength and health of the relationship depends on how much time and effort we put into it. It doesn’t just happen. To make a relationship strong and healthy, we have to nurture it.

Children need and deserve a loving, safe and peaceful home environment. It’s what makes them feel loved and secure. We owe it to them to make it a priority to regularly work on our primary relationship not only for our sake, but for theirs. Yes, it takes time. Yes, it often takes money. Yes, it takes effort. Know, without a shred of doubt, that it’s worth it and your children will thank you.

Couples with children too often make the mistake of neglecting their relationship and risking the loss of the relationship, which is never anyone’s intention. Commit to setting up a date night at least twice a month. Do something together in the evening you both enjoy, once the kids have gone to bed. Send each other little love notes during the day. All these things work towards a strong union and a more secure foundation for your children.

Don’t catch yourself looking back five years after the birth of your first child, not being able to recall the last time you and your partner had a date or just took time out to be together in a meaningful way. It’s too easy to let things get off track to the point you’re not sure how to get back what you had in the beginning. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Age of Psychic Children

In this age of high technology and a higher state of consciousness, children are being born with a higher state of awareness. This evolutional psychic upgrade in those born from the time periods of the 1980’s forward are gifted in several extensions of a sixth sense and beyond.

Learning how to raise these psychic children can be discerning especially for those children who have visions and hear messages, bend silverware, or move objects with their minds. To some people of an older generation these gifts were considered superpowers and in some schools of thought they were considered evil. Times have changed and our evolving intuitive species has too.

Educating yourself in the paranormal and psychic fields can help a great deal in guiding and supporting psychic children to have a sense of pride in their abilities and be responsible. Books, magazines, and television shows such as Paranormal Cops and Paranormal State, Psychic Kids: Children of the Paranormal available for suggested age groups 13 and up. Explore and evaluate the best suitable media for your child’s particular gifts.

Perceptive, intuitive children are often overwhelmed with all the high-energy particles they have around them due to their keen sensitivity. Many of them absorb others problems, pains, worries, and struggles to such a point that they feel tired, sometimes depressed or lethargic from the overloaded accumulation of psychic energy. Learning to control their insightful sensitivity through a meditative activity is ideal but some kids are just too high-strung or young for such stillness of the mind. A class in martial arts, yoga, or tai chi can help your young psychic take control and become more balanced.

New learning communities have sprouted up locally and online that offer a curriculum for the intuitive arts and intelligences for home educators, teachers, and self-learners. Some of these schools can be found in the Spiritualist communities while others are found in traditional university sanctioned paranormal research. Depending upon your needs, the key is to stay open to the psychic levels and shifts without jumping into a study too quickly.

Every mystifying event you experience with your child is a meaningful awareness. Without discarding our capacity of rational discernment; we are being elevated to accept the higher part of our own intuitive process that each and every human being is born with. In this way, we are entering a new world view that provides a constant stream of miracles, big and small that guide us to a higher, more enlightened existence. This age of psychic children teaches us and helps us to discover a posture of growth and advancement in the wake of this evolutional leap.

Toys Can Attract Dirt and Germs That Could Be Harmful To Children

Children’s toys get very dirty throughout the day. They collect a lot of germs as well because children often put the toys in their mouth. It is very important to clean the toys after they have been used so that they do no spread germs and get your child or other children sick. Any object that a child touches should also be kept clean.

Keeping toys clean is an important task because kids pick up toys and put them in their mouth a lot when they are younger. Even older kids who play with toys may also spread germs easily by not washing their hands or touching the toys after eating. Washing the toys after they are played with will help prevent germs from spreading from one child to another. Even if only one child plays with the toys, it is still important to keep them clean. The child may get germs on some of their toys and the germs will spread and could get other people sick as well.

It is important to keep all surfaces that a child comes into contact with clean as well because children touch everything. Counters, tables, food areas, door knobs, bathrooms, and other items that are touched often should be cleaned every day as well. Keeping all areas where children play and have fun is an important part in keeping them safe and healthy.

Toys should also be cleaned after they have been played with outside. The toys may have dirt or mud on them that can be brought inside and get other things dirty as well. It is unsafe to play with toys that are covered in mud or dirt. Young children may try to put the items in their mouth even though it is covered in dirt. Even older children who know better may still touch the toy a lot and then put their hands near their mouth or eat without washing their hands if they aren’t reminded. There are many harmful things in dirt that can get a child sick if it is ingested. There have been many children who have gotten sick after ingesting dirt, so keeping toys clean from is very important.

Children’s bath toys also need to be cleaned. You may not think that bath toys can get dirty, but mold can grow on toys that are left wet after a bath. Mold is unhealthy for everyone, especially children, and it can grow in wet or moist areas. It is important to wash toys and make sure that they are dry after each use.

Rubber duckies and other similar toys can hold water inside, and you may not be able to get it all out. It is important to clean them with bleach water to prevent the mold from growing inside them. If mold start to grow and cleaning doesn’t help, the toys should be thrown away. Children like to put the bath toys in their mouth, and they often squirt the water out of the toys into their mouth.

Every toy that children play with should be washed at some point. Even if it doesn’t look dirty, it could still be carrying a lot of germs that could make you or your child sick. Cleaning toys is easy, and most hard toys only need to be washed with bleach water. Soft toys can easily be disinfected by putting them in the washer or hand-washing the surface with a soapy rag. Cleaning the toys and surfaces that a child touches can help prevent germs from spreading and will help prevent them from getting sick from other children.